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Where was my ambition in my twenties?
I was happy, content and living life day by day. I was unencumbered by the bothersome realities of adult living. I had a roof over my head, good friends and consistency. My children were happy, I was happy. There was even a ‘white picket fence’ (grey timber, but close enough).
Now I find myself trying to jam twenty years of reticence and blissful ignorance into the present and feeling frustrated that it wont work. I have an enormous clock ticking, its huge, bigger that Big Ben, and apparently that is one mother of a big clock.
My enormous clock is not a biological one, although I hear that one is a loud bastard too. Mine is an accomplishment clock. My biggest fear, the biggest thing that drives my day to day existence is that I am running out of time to accomplish most of the things I would like to.
I am almost 39 and that is so, so freaking hard to admit to the world let alone myself. By the grace of God and perhaps some good genes, I don’t look 39. I don’t feel 39. I feel like I am trying to outrace time, racing toward a closing door that will slam shut before I get there and I will be left on the wrong side, with only hopes and dreams instead of tangible results.
I am not discounting motherhood as an accomplishment. I am so full of pride for my children and they will always be the proof that I did accomplish something wonderful in my life. I have had the blessing of mothering at a young age and mothering now, as I grow older and both experiences are very different and beyond measurable in the value they have provided.
But I have discovered, that I want more.
I didn’t know that I wanted more when I was younger. I was, as I mentioned, blissfully ignorant and living in my contented existence where motherhood was the only thing I was actively doing at that point in my life. I don’t remember having any ambition beyond raising my children. I don’t remember thinking anything about my own life and what I wanted to do. It was like my allegiance to being a responsible mother created blinders that made the outside world non existent and if I couldn’t see it, I couldn’t aspire to join it.
So now, some 14 years on from those sweet, youthful days when there seemed to be all the time in the world , I am feeling overwhelmed with pent up ambition. I am brimming with so many aspirations, I have big dreams and places I want to see, things I want to achieve. Yet that big fucking clock is ticking at me contemptuously, reminding me that I am not 25 anymore. I don’t have the whole world at my feet and all the time in the world.
I am 38 (almost 39) and having found my sense of drive and desire to accomplish so late in life, my overwhelming thought is that time is running out. I am not talking about mortality, geez I don’t even want to go there right now! I am talking about time to physically be able to do things and also enjoy them.
I don’t want someone to have to wait for me in my walker to hobble to the top of the Eiffel Tower, I want to do it while I can still tone my arse from the climb! I want to write my novel or my screenplay and see it come to fruition while I can still celebrate and dance the night away. I want to feel like I am not racing a clock all the time, not trying to desperately push millions of grains of sand back through the hourglass as they cruelly slip between time I have left and time that I don’t.
Where was all of this ambition in my twenties? How do you double- time your efforts to make up for the years of living life like the future didn’t matter? More importantly, how do you ignore the incessant ticking of that fucking clock?
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